RELATIONSHIP 101: EMOTIONS VS TOLERANCE

Relationships are usually about two people putting in 50/50% effort to make it work...once there is a tip in the scale, the real problem starts. It is then up to both parties to identify the problem and nip it in the bud before it grows into something bigger than what initially started it. Voicing out grievances is key in problem resolution in any relationship, added with the passion to make the relationship itself work. It is also important to note that falling in and out of love is inevitable but it is the commitment and tolerance held by both parties that can make that relationship survive. That is to say that relying on your emotions in a relationship is a sure way to sink the ship because emotions, like the tides of the sea rise up and fall down. Any relationship built on emotions or feelings has a 20% chance of survival especially after a disagreement. But when key values such as patience, tolerance and commitment are thrown in, the survival chance goes up to about 80%. it may also be interesting to know that most people who base their relationships on emotions often expect the other party to be "perfect". It may sound strange but sadly true since we all know that perfection, in the real sense of the word, does not exist. An emotion-based relationship often expects no wrong, no flaws and no shortcomings. So when these mannerisms show up, it shakes the relationship to its foundation. At that point, it becomes, "I can't believe you did that" or "I don't know why you said that". A relationship not based on emotions would rather say "I do not appreciate what you just said/did but i bet you had good reason to..." Another interesting fact is that people who base their relationship on emotions, who in turn expect perfection, know that they are far from perfect and expect the other party to make up for their imperfections. This would obviously cause a tip in the scale as the relationship would be about one person and not the couple. If you have gone through this and realize that your relationship is based on emotions rather than tolerance and commitment, its not too late to start afresh. Every relationship is like writings on a slate that can be wiped clean...no matter how far you have gone.